Soul Mates and Twin
Spirits - What Are They Really?
By Greg Gourdian
Many of us have had a distinctive experience
of having met someone for the first time, someone with whom we feel we are
incontrovertibly connected deep within our souls. We may believe this new
person is our soul mate or our twin soul. But what are our soul mates or twin
spirits really? Can we truly be linked to another spirit and destined to meet
one another in many different incarnations? Were we somehow made for one
another by a divine creator who provides for all of us someone special with
whom we may share our lives?
Like many spiritual beliefs, the concepts of
twin spirits or soul mates are predicated upon deep spiritual experiences for
which there are really no adequate words. We use metaphors to try to describe
such experiences until the experiences become so commonplace that new words
evolve to more accurately describe our experiences or the metaphors stick like
glue and we come to accept the metaphor as a literal description when in fact
it may still fall short of being a valid description of our experience.
While it is undeniably true that many of us
have experiences in which we recognize another soul with whom we are
intimately connected in some inexplicable way, perhaps we should examine the
metaphors we use to describe these experiences to shed some light on what may
really be going on. Metaphors are used to apply past experiences which we
understand to new experiences which we have no proper concepts for. Without
clearly understood concepts we can have no words which accurately describe our
new experiences which is why we must resort to metaphors. But a metaphor is
only an approximate likeness between two experiences which will usually
accurately describe our familiar experience but which will provide only a
reasonably close Ďas-ifí description of our new experience.
So when we meet someone with whom we feel we
share a common past or destiny we search for a way to explain this feeling and
our culture has developed the concepts of soul mates and twin spirits to
accommodate our need for words to describe how we feel.
The metaphors of soul mates and twin spirits
come from our real experiences with having partners in life, our mates, or
having known someone with a twin, a biological condition. Both indicate a
degree of relatedness that is above and beyond the way we appear to be related
to most other people in our lives and that is the essence of what we are
trying to express when we find someone with whom we communicate on a very deep
level of our souls.
Neither marriage nor twins may have any real
meaning in regard to our spirits, so the popular concepts of soul mates and
twin spirits may be off the mark in the context of the spiritual reality of
our souls. We may have wonderful people in our lives with whom we are deeply
connected whom we may have a great affinity for in the context of our
spiritual lives beyond the limits of our incarnations, but they may not be our
twins or mates, but something other for which we have not yet found adequate
words to accurately describe these very special relationships.
Marriage is a societal convention, mates are
temporary phenomena, the lives of our souls in the spirit world may have
vastly different social conventions and we may have many mates all of whom are
special to us each in their own way but none of whom we may be mated to or
married to in any sense that is either permanent or exclusive of someone else.
Likewise, this special person with whom we
share an incredibly intimate bond may not be related to us in the manner of a
twin. Our spirits seem unlikely to have grown from a single egg and our
spirits all share the same womb from which they were born so we cannot be
twins in the fraternal sense in any manner that may be considered special
since in the ultimate sense we must then all be twins to one another including
every other spirit in creation.
However, there are considerations which may
make the concepts of soul mates and spiritual twins valid metaphors for our
experiences of being thoroughly connected with another personís soul.
Perhaps our souls have somehow divided themselves and our souls have thereby
created an independent twin or a soul mate. This is one explanation I can
offer which would make soul mates or twin spirits a reasonably valid metaphor
for the experience of meeting a very special person. When I examine the
beginning of creation at the time our souls are created I do not see any of us
in the roles of twins or mates. So if soul mates or twin spirits truly exist
then perhaps they must come much later. If they did come later then that would
make them a different order of being from what I would call our primary souls;
those infinite sparks cast forth in the first moment of creation. Each of our
primary souls is like a hologram such that every one of us contains every one
of us within ourselves. If we were to become divided and become two separate
specially related souls we might then be twin spirits, but we would no longer
be the primary soul from which we originally came, even though each of the
souls we have become has its origin in a pre-existing undivided state of our
Another possibility would be that twin spirits
or soul mates may simply have shared many experiences together over many
different incarnations or have always remained close to one another throughout
most of their experiences in the spiritual world of our souls.
Soul mates are sometimes described as being
paired opposites, however opposites is a weak term to describe this state of
connectedness since it appears to preclude areas where two 'soul mates' may be
very much alike.
The philosophy of twin spirits or soul mates is
most often predicated upon a belief that god provided for every one of us a
perfect mate. But then why is finding that perfect mate so difficult? Has god
created our perfect mate only to challenge us to find them? I doubt that it is
like that, god does not seem perverse to me.
I think we all began in an identical state or
condition and that we have then evolved into what we will become. I think the
concept of twin spirits or soul mates is too limiting in regard to the
potential scope of our love, and that we are meant to love everyone and are
not meant to cling to only one special soul throughout eternity.
Of course I may be mistaken, these are only my
thoughts of the moment and my position may change as I consider these
questions more carefully over time.
One issue I have with the concepts of soul
mates and spiritual twins is that they are predicated upon the cognitive
process of duality and ultimately duality is an illusion imposed upon us by
our limited abilities to think clearly. Again, I may be mistaken, but I do not
think that duality applies to who we are as spirits in the most primal sense
of our being. Duality appears to be only a tool for picking apart our
experiences so that our conscious minds can discover useful terms with which
to describe our experiences.
Regardless of the validity of the metaphors we
use to describe the sweet experiences we have of meeting someone with whom we
may feel we have shared eternity, many of us most definitely connect in a very
unique and intimate manner with some very special person in our lives. Thos
people with whom we click in this extraordinary manner often become pivotal
people in transforming our lives for the better so that we help one another to
grow and to evolve as more loving, nurturing and compassionate human beings.
If you are lucky enough to believe you have
found your soul mate or a spiritual twin you then should go for broke. The
person whom you have found may indeed reflect that belief in your deep union
and prove to be a loving partner or a deeply cherished friend well worth
knowing and loving and keeping close to you in your present incarnation on
BIO: Fledgling author Greg
Gourdian has worked with the general public as a psychic reader for
a little over four years from 1981 to 1986. Much of his written work
is channeled, although he will admit that he has no idea who many of
the sources for his channeled work may be. He has many strange tales
to tell regarding his spiritual journey and he attempts to tell his
tales in a humorous or entertaining manner. While not an accredited
teacher, Greg has taught classes in psychology, sociology,
metaphysics and parapsychology.
Visit Greg's blog at http://tangledintime.blogspot.com/
- All rights reserved.